As humans, I find we typically make the assumption other people do and want things similar to the way we want them. This I found be especially true being in a long term relationship. You love me, so you know what I’m thinking, right? Wrong. A resounding wrong! This belief isn’t just about your wants and needs but can also apply to the way you travel. Traveling by yourself is one thing, but traveling with a significant other, a friend or even a group of people can prove to be amazing or challenging. I’m going to be sharing with you tips on How To Travel Well With Others.
When planning a trip we tend to think of everything. You narrow down your destination, book flights and hotels, pick out activities. It’s a lot to think about! But did you think about the person going with you when you planned this trip? It may seem impossible to learn but this is How To Travel Well With Others.
Spending the past 8 years traveling with my husband Brian and some friend trips here and there, I have definitely learned How To Travel Well With Others. You can too. Here it goes!
Set Clear Expectations
I think this is one of the easiest yet most effective ways to Travel Well With Others. Planning a trip to Costa Rica with your friend and you have the days jam packed with activities, but your friend had planned to chill by the pool everyday, problems may arise. From the earliest planning stages of a trip, find out what everyone is looking to do. Don’t book an excursion to go zip lining if someone is afraid of heights. What is your daily budget? Is it more than others in your group? What about where you will stay? Are you comfortable in a hostel or prefer a nicer hotel? If you go into a trip being on the same page, you can avoid drama and everyone will have a nice time.
Choose Your Travel Buddies Wisely
Are you someone who enjoys scheduling a trip down to every single hour of a day? Or maybe you’re more like me, who likes to see where the day can take you? Either way, it’s a good idea to figure that out about yourself. It’s an even better idea to find out what your friend or partner is like as well. If you are an early riser but your friend is planning on staying out until 2:00 am every night, things are gonna get messy. The best way to avoid conflict in this way is to travel with those are who have a similar travel style to you.
Save conflict for home
If a problem arises, try and find a way to squash it in the moment. It is completely normal to have problems arise in relationships, and being away from home where you may be jetlagged and hungry can make it arise even more. If you’re facing a problem, try and address it or suggest you talk about it after the trip. If it is something more immediate, hear each other out, compromise and move on. You’ve spent a lot of time and money to go on your trip, don’t spend it being upset with each other.
This brings me to my next tip; Compromise. When you are traveling with other people, it isn’t always going to go your way. (Even if you organized the trip) A great way to travel well with others is to meet in the middle. You may not want to do something the others want to do, but the same could go for something you do want to do. Try and meet in the middle while traveling with others and you’ll find that you won’t regret it.
Plan for some down time
Just because you are traveling with others, doesn’t mean every single moment needs to be spent together. If you find yourself feeling a bit drained by being with others, sit out an activity or plan some self care like a massage or nice bath. Everyone has a limit for how much time they can spend around other people, don’t let yourself get past the point where you get annoyed with the people you are with.
Focus on Each Other’s Strengths
Traveling can be really fun. It also can be really stressful. Do you handle stress well? Maybe help your friend talk to the airline to find their lost bag! Is your friend awesome at organizing activities? Let them schedule an afternoon of things for you guys to do at your destination? Working together on your trip will allow everyone to be more relaxed and feeling included. If you try to do it all, you will feel stressed and resentful. Figure out what roles everyone is best at and it will be smooth sailing.
Overall traveling with people you love can be the most wonderful thing in the world. If you learn How To Travel Well With Others before you head to the airport, you will be in the clear!
Have you traveled well with others before? Or do you prefer to travel solo? Let me know in the comments below!